e·mo·tion·al in·tel·li·gence
noun
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the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.“emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success”
Daniel Goleman wrote the book called Emotional Intelligence that defined 5 elements that can help all of us understand how to be happy and healthy in a world where it oftentimes seems impossible to attain happiness and emotional well-being. I can’t say that I have always been emotionally intelligent and will identify with deficits in all of these areas that have taken years to master and I gladly embrace the continual journey towards enlightenment.
If you are angry, depressed, anxious, verbally or physically aggressive or resentful, take the time to check in with each of these elements to see where you are at. Rate yourself between 1-10, then set a goal of where you want to be on that scale and I invite you to begin the journey yourself.
- Self-Awareness – Asking yourself who am I and why do I feel this way. This means an understanding of your emotions and not letting feelings, (which are often reactive vs. realistic), rule you.
- Self-Regulation – Thinking before you act. This is your ability to control your emotions and impulses.
- Motivation – You are motivated to do something or achieve something. This is evidenced by achievements, (completing any task you set at hand from cleaning your home to obtaining your dream job).
- Empathy – Understanding what others feel or need. This is your ability to identify with and understand the wants, needs, and viewpoints of those around you.
- Social Skills – Do you have consistent relationships in your life? This is your ability to help others, manage discord, communicate with others, and you are able to build and maintain relationships.
What’s Your Score? Emotional Intelligence Test
Lisa Parani 